My good friend Elaine couldn’t shake the feeling that something was missing from her life. She knew she should have been happy, and she was — mostly — but still.
Just out of the corner of her eye she thought she glimpsed something more.
“Am I delusional?” she asked me.
Hardly!
What Are the Steps for Creating Perfect Happiness?
I gave her this list of questions to help identify where the hole for that “something missing” might be.
- The first step for creating perfect happiness (OK, of course, I do know nothing’s perfect) is to define the area that’s bothering you. I suggested that Elaine write out her answers.
- Then, when she read back through her answers, she should spend some time celebrating all the areas where she felt solid. She had a lot to rejoice over.
- Only AFTER giving herself a big dose of self-confidence and affirmation, should she spend some quiet time looking at the other areas.
“Allow yourself to really experience any feelings of sadness and anxiety about those iffy areas,” I said. Then, after a while, pick one area that calls to you and begin to think about making a small change to achieve the perfectly happy life you want and deserve.
Questions to Ask Myself to Create Perfect Happiness
- Are you safe, physically and emotionally?
- What do you want? (Not, What do you need?)
- How do you define success?
- Are you where you want to be?
- Are you healthy, vital, and strong?
- Do your relationships nurture and satisfy you?
- Do you feel in control of your finances?
- Are you afraid of your future?
- What one new skill would you like to have in your new future?
- How can you better serve yourself?
- How much downtime do you allow yourself?
- What are three things that drain your energy?
- What can you delegate?
- How do you like to play? What brings you joy?
It’s a simple process, but it helped Elaine reclaim her personal power to transform herself into the strong, capable and perfectly happy woman she wanted to be.
~Dr. Nancy