Can You Create Perfect Happiness?

perfect-happinessMy good friend Elaine couldn’t shake the feeling that something was missing from her life. She knew she should have been happy, and she was — mostly — but still.

Just out of the corner of her eye she thought she glimpsed something more. 

“Am I delusional?” she asked me.

Hardly!

What Are the Steps for Creating Perfect Happiness?

I gave her this list of questions to help identify where the hole for that “something missing” might be.

  1. The first step for creating perfect happiness (OK, of course, I do know nothing’s perfect) is to define the area that’s bothering you.  I suggested that Elaine write out her answers.
  2. Then, when she read back through her answers, she should spend some time celebrating all the areas where she felt solid. She had a lot to rejoice over.
  3. Only AFTER giving herself a big dose of self-confidence and affirmation, should she spend some quiet time looking at the other areas.

“Allow yourself to really experience any feelings of sadness and anxiety about those iffy areas,” I said. Then, after a while, pick one area that calls to you and begin to think about making a small change to achieve the perfectly happy life you want and deserve.

Questions to Ask Myself to Create Perfect Happiness

  1. Are you safe, physically and emotionally?
  2. What do you want? (Not, What do you need?)
  3. How do you define success?
  4. Are you where you want to be?
  5. Are you healthy, vital, and strong?
  6. Do your relationships nurture and satisfy you?
  7. Do you feel in control of your finances?
  8. Are you afraid of your future?
  9. What one new skill would you like to have in your new future?
  10. How can you better serve yourself?
  11. How much downtime do you allow yourself?
  12. What are three things that drain your energy?
  13. What can you delegate?
  14. How do you like to play? What brings you joy?

It’s a simple process, but it helped Elaine reclaim her personal power to transform herself into the strong, capable and perfectly happy woman she wanted to be.

~Dr. Nancy
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