I'm Jealous of Other Women's Successes

By Dr. Nancy

Is it nature or nuture? For whatever reason, many women have a tendency to feel jealous of other women’s achievements. Come on, admit it, there have been times that you also have had that twinge of jealousy. She has this beautiful head of thick hair, she has this successful book that’s on the New York Time’s best seller list, all you can think of is the journal at home that you don’t want anyone else to read.

How Do I Get Rid of Jealously and Envy?

Every woman’s situation is definitely different, so to answer that question with a “here’s what you do” answer, would be impossible. But, we do have suggestions…

Why do I envy my friend so much?

Think about the real reason for your envy and you will probably find the root lies in your own insecurities. Your friend’s success most likely resulted from her own hard work. If you have set goals that you have not achieved, her success may cut right to your core.

How do I compliment my friend?

Make eye contact and smile. DON’T tell her how pretty she is or how great her hair is – DO tell her how impressed you are by her accomplishments. Tell her you know how hard she worked. Tell her you are happy for her success.
You may still feel the twinge of jealousy, but focus instead on what you would like to hear if you were in her position. If you “Fake it ’til you make it,” those positive feelings will gradually overshadow the jealousy.

Jealousy in Women’s Friendships, Is it Healthy?

To be blunt – NO! Jealousy is not healthy.
Keeping friends close has real physiological and psychological benefits, according to a January 2012 study in the Journal Developmental Psychology. (Read full article at: EarthSky.org)

True friends are hard to find and develop

Close friends are just true friends in waiting. Chose your friends wisely and hold them close. If one of your friends has a success, be the first to help her celebrate. She will be the first in line to help you celebrate your successes.