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Jamia Wilson Says Yes to Get Her Voice Heard

Says Yes To Get Her Voice Heard

Jamia Wilson

Jamia Wilson admits to being a yes-person. By saying yes to every opportunity to get her voice heard on behalf of women, she has become a vocal social advocate, writer and outspoken feminist, who has been called “the next generation thought leader.” But really her time is now—right now. Linking generations of feminists, Jamia is the youngest and first woman of color to lead the nearly 50-year-old Feminist Press as executive director, and a children’s story author, molding the next generation of women. She credits the focus her parents put on education, and the guidance from her mother and grandmother, who she calls “powerhouses and trailblazers in their field.” She says that she is grateful for the healthy collaborative relationships she had with them and other women who put her work at the intersection of feminism, human rights, activism and story-telling.

When so much is dividing us these days, Jamia seeks to bring us all together by saying yes to every opportunity to empower the next generation, remind us of our humanity, and credit those generations of women who paved the way for her to pave the way for others.

Mentors Help You Claim Your Power

Jamia has been fortunate to have some amazing mentors. She went to work for Planned Parenthood straight out of college and her boss was Gloria Feldt, who was Executive Director at the time. Today Gloria is author of the best-seller, No Excuses: Nine Ways Women Can Change the Way We Think about Power, and co-founder of Take the Lead, which seeks to gain parity for women by 2025. Gloria remained Jamia’s mentor after she came to New York, and Jamia says, “She [Gloria] has always had a vision for me that is bigger than myself.” This kind of mentoring makes a person reach and strive to meet the expectations of their mentor. Beyond that, her mother and grandmother taught her to look to older women for advice about how to tap into her own strength. That is where Jamia says women’s real power lies—enduring with resilience and persistence again and again no matter what comes your way.

Feminist Press Helps Women’s Voices Be Heard

Founded in 1970, the Feminist Press at the City University of New York, is about to celebrate its 50th anniversary. The Press exists to amplify feminist voices around the world and was founded in the second wave of feminism. Jamia spoke of a recent meeting they had with the founder, Florence Howell, who just turned 90 in March. Florence admitted that when she started it, she just saw it as an idea, but checks arrived from women wanting to support it. Even then, she thought it would only last about 10 years—that the issues would surely be solved by then—that the publishers would understand what an important part of the market women are.

Jamia says that she thinks the reason why The Press is still here is the root causes of the issues (the dehumanization of people, of human suffering, of all the isms) have not been addressed. As long as there is the power of domination, people will be marginalized and voices will need a platform to speak out and help them be heard.

Listen to this interview for more stories about Jamia’s experiences growing up in Saudi Arabia, at events with Gloria Steinem and more about her perspective on today’s feminists. Check out her website, for a complete list of her books, her blog and her speaking schedule. And please visit and buy books from The Feminist Press. Your support helps The Press keep operating. It’s the most basic form of women supporting other women.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Read more about Jamia in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends. After you’ve read it, please, leave us a 5-star review on Amazon. Your review will help us reach more women with proven techniques for achieving gender equality by working with other women and our male allies.

Helping Women Make Their Voices Heard

Tabby Biddle

Once Tabby Biddle found her inner power and spoke out about human rights abuses on behalf of women and girls, her next step was obvious, help other women speak out to make their voices heard. That’s how she became a coach in support of women with a message for the TEDx stage. Four years ago, when Tabby shared her life story in her own TEDx presentation, she learned that only 17% of TED speakers were women. She was given three main reasons for the discrepancy: they had trouble finding women speakers; women were more likely to say no, and women were more likely to back out. Tabby had trouble believing these were the real reasons, so she began her own research from the trenches, working with women to prepare them, not just for the TEDx stage, but to communicate their legacy and speak out to change the world in ways that will support those who come after them.

Why Women Play Small—Overcoming Their Own Gender Bias

Tabby said that women put up hundreds of barriers to taking a stand on the TEDx stage. She’s heard excuses like,

  • Am I qualified enough?
  • Will anyone care what I have to say?
  • Hasn’t this all been said before?

Then there’s the usual:

  • I’m too busy now.
  • I’m totally overwhelmed with work and family.

Tabby explains that all of these reasons are a front for a woman’s lack of self-confidence and desire to continue to play small. When women put themselves out there on the TEDx stage, they show their vulnerabilities, which many have hidden to play in the man’s world of strength and power, while hiding their own inner-power and feminine leadership skills. They have allowed their vulnerabilities to keep them in their place, playing the “good girl,” who is liked by everyone and feels comfortable staying where cultural bias keeps her. It’s less risky, and fits what other people have told them to think about themselves and where they belong in the world.

100 Women in Hollywood Claim Their Power

Last year, Tabby teamed up with Elisa Parker, founder of See Jane Do, to direct Take the Lead’s signature program, 50 Women Can Change the World in Media and Entertainment.  A cross section of 50 women from the creative side of media and from the executive and agency sides were nominated to participate, learn and adapt Gloria Feldt’s Nine Power Tools for their industry. The cohort completely changed many of their lives. Tabby said their network switched from being 98% men who they asked for work to 80% women who referred them or who they referred for work. The rewards were they finally claimed their power from within and built a community where they could honestly speak their mind and heart. Tabby said the program catapulted many of their careers—they are hiring each other, and winning awards they never even got nominated for prior to 50 Women.

The evolution of 50 Women Can for Tabby and Elisa was a day-long retreat for women leaders working at the forefront of gender equity, inclusion and diversity in Hollywood. Many groups and organizations were working for the same thing but doing it in isolation from one another and carrying it out in different ways. The day-long retreat, known as 100 Women Can Change Hollywood, helped them build their lines of trust and develop friendships and relationships that allowed them to find ways they could further align and collaborate. The women were very grateful to have this safe, all-women community where they could be creative about ways to help women in Hollywood claim their power and create equitable opportunities for women to tell their stories.

Next Step—Getting Men as Allies

Tabby said that as much as we’ve talked about needing an all female-centered group, we’re also at a point where we need to build partnerships with men from the female perspective. And, she added, there are a lot of men in the industry who want to work for gender equity, but are afraid of making a mistake or saying the wrong thing. Not only that, they want to be with other men working toward the same thing.

The next step is a program for 100 People—Women and Men—designed in a way that allows each group to meet separately for three months, and then come together for a final three months. Both male and female speakers will address the groups, and a university has been approached for hosting and documenting the progress. Tabby and Dr. Nancy both think it will be a landmark event. It will be the first time a group of this nature has used the balance of the masculine and the feminine to work toward such an important goal that affects us all. Tabby predicts that having seen the communities formed by both 50 Women and 100 Women, this new community of male allies directed from the feminine perspective will have powerful results.

Listen to this conversation to learn more about Tabby’s plans to advance women and how she can help you make your voice heard. Tabby says that every story is told from different life experiences, so each is unique and powerful and needs to be heard by someone new. Check out her website, buy her book, Find Your Voice: A Women’s Call to Action, and watch for new TED online classes or contact Tabby for personal coaching.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Tabby’s work to help women speak out on the TED stage is discussed in Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life. Her ideas are expressed, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

Discovering How Women Can Support Women

Women Support Women

Paige Oxendine

Paige Oxendine is a walking, talking example of what happens when you live each day to do your best. She credits her parents with instilling in her great values such as contributing to and being part of the community, doing your best, and working hard. Paige took these lessons to heart in her school and professional life to help entrepreneurs with additional support for women.

This articulate young millennial began her journey to leadership during four years of competitive high school debate, where she learned how to develop various communication styles. These enabled her “to communicate with people who may hold different viewpoints from your own and still have a rational and reasonable conversation.” Paige moved on to college, participated in student government, and was elected Student Body President at Missouri State University while achieving her degree in public relations and socio-political communication. But she specifically credits participation in the Sue Shear Institute for Women in Public Life among the formative events and people that gave her the background and inspiration to pursue community service.

In the 10 years since graduation, Paige’s community work has included Springfield Area Chamber of Commerce managing a team of young professionals under 40. She is currently employed as Program Coordinator for Missouri State’s e-Factory, a business incubator, workspace, network environment, training center and more.

Helping Women Helps Everyone

Like many of her generation, Paige believes in doing well while doing good. The idea that “a rising tide floats all boats” is at the heart of her approach to economic development, and she knows that helping women helps everyone.  She works to create programs and an environment that will inspire entrepreneurs to create “the next big thing” that will help everyone in the community.

Transforming the biases we have about what leadership looks like is a really big thing. While participating in the Shear Institute she met women who make policy in the state of Missouri, and debated the issues they face as members of government. Paige told Dr. Nancy that people still envision the U.S. President as a man, a perspective we need to change in ourselves and in the next generation before a woman has a hope of occupying the Oval Office.

Rosie Helps Women Claim Their Power

As told in the final chapter of Dr. Nancy’s latest book  In This Together, Paige collaborated with Rachel Anderson to create Rosie, a women’s networking group in Springfield, Missouri. Paige said they were inspired to do this when they noticed that leadership in the region was overwhelmingly “pale and male.” The same six women served on all the boards that had women, and they were overworked because they were afraid if they said no, there would be no women at all. With the help of The Women’s Foundation based in Kansas City, they got a grant for initial funding, and used their community contacts and relationships to start a network that is now 1,000 strong.

Getting Men As Allies and Advocates

Their goal for Rosie was to create a free database of information from local women about their experiences, their interests and their skill sets, so they could link women with speaking opportunities, board openings and jobs outside of their workplace or industry. They expected 60 people at the Rosie launch party but more than 200 showed up. Men wanted to participate too, so they launched Brosie  for awesome men who wanted to become allies and advocates.  Two-and-a-half years later, the momentum continues and Rosie has an exciting future serving women in the community.

Listen to this conversation between Dr. Nancy and Paige for more personal stories and advice on working together to create opportunities for ourselves and others. Hear more about how these two amazing young women started Rosie and check out the website for more wisdom on helping women by helping our communities.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

The story of Rosie appears in Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, as an inspiring example of how you can develop your own community network. Read the thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans for working together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Buy a copy for yourself and gifts for your friends.

Creating Social Change With and For Women

Sarah Acer founded Align Communication & Creative as an experiment to see if she could work on projects that created social change with women who shared her values to do the same. Ten working moms, many of them young mothers, left their big brand careers to work on projects that aligned with their personal values while also allowing them to control their time, and balance their life and careers. Four years later, the women-owned collective has built a new kind of agency — one that includes the perks, projects and people they always daydreamed about—and where they can challenge the status quo, solve complex problems and drive social change.

At 14, Sarah began her first initiative to create social change when she joined the Truth Campaign, the nationwide tobacco education and cessation program to stop the epidemic of teenage smoking. Watching her grandmother progress from macular degeneration, breast cancer to lung cancer and still be unable to stop smoking enlightened her to the power of a harmful habit. 20 years later, Sarah is still involved with the campaign, but has broadened her scope to include big business that is also good business with an emphasis on those serving under-served communities.

Solve for XX

In 2018 Sarah co-founded Solve for XX , an organization set up to solve issues that impact people with XX chromosomes (women). With a grant from The State Department, through the Nelson Mandela Exchange Program, a young African leader is matched with American entrepreneurs. Sarah and her partner, Kristen Romaine were matched with – an equally amazing woman from Uganda who runs Women in Tech Uganda. They collaborated originally to help Women in Tech run more efficiently.  But the pilot program they developed went much further..

Solve for XX became a 24-hour hackathon, during which participants were trained in business skills, like writing resumes, applying for jobs, and creating a business plan, and then matched with mentors to guide them. During the final 12 hours, participants were divided into teams to identify and develop solutions for the problems women face in their communities. In Kampala, Uganda, where this hackathon took place, early marriage and pregnancy tie women to a way of life that keeps them stuck in poverty. Business plans emerged from the participants, which were rewarded with microfinancing for businesses that can transform lives. Sarah said the microfinance part of the program was unintentional, but when they were presented with pitches that only required $100 to run a business for six months, they provided the funding to proceed. This leg up helps women help their families and ultimately their entire community, country, and even the world. More Solve for XX hackathons are planned for Bulawayo, Zimbabwe, Detroit, Michigan and Catania, Italy. If you’d like to volunteer, mentors are needed via Skype.

Millennials Moving into Leadership in 2020

The future is here, and the first group to outnumber baby boomers is becoming half of the workforce. As one of them, Sarah’s own passion for pursuing a life of service places her in the majority. Sarah said that most millennials care less about the monetary rewards of salaries and more about workplace culture, family leave and other benefits that support healthy and happy lifestyles. Because they have entered the workforce in such numbers they are also moving into leadership. That means they will command large budgets and make decisions to support their values as they become middle and upper level managers.

Healthier cultures in the workplace is one part of Sarah’s thesis for her doctoral dissertation. She is also exploring how implicit bias holds women back from achieving full parity. We all have biases and she said the first step is to recognize them so we can work on correcting the way we perceive ourselves and others. The key to getting women in top management is getting a woman in top management. She likens it to the chicken and egg syndrome. Bias, from both men and women, keeps them from getting in the door. Nancy added one of her favorite sayings, “When you get through the door, take three women with you.”

Listen to this conversation for more of Sarah’s personal story and her ideas on how we can help women achieve parity and full equality. Check out her website to learn more about Align Communication and Creative. And be sure to check out Solve for XX to see how you can help women help themselves and their families transform their lives.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Sarah’s viewpoint about millennials in the workplace and research about eliminating bias also appear in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

 

 

 

 

Use Your Special Talents and Speak Up

Teaching women to use special talents and speak up

Kathy Caprino

Kathy Caprino helps women discover their special talents and learn how they can use them to light up the world with the career of their dreams. Once a successful, but unhappy corporate vice president, Kathy had to have her own crisis and breakthrough to found Ellia Comunications, Inc., and become the international career coach, author and speaker she is today. Now living her own dream, Kathy is helping others break through their power gaps, find their bravery and seize opportunities for successful, purposeful lives.

Who Are You?

Before a coaching session, Kathy said that she gives women and men 11 pages of questions to answer on her career path assessment. The first question asks who you are and what makes you special, and Kathy is astounded that women cannot answer that question. She remarks that she couldn’t do it either 30 years ago when she had her own career and life crisis. But she stresses that you must be able to answer that question before you can begin to do what you truly want and live the satisfying fulfilling life on the inside as well as outside. She calls this process “Finding Brave.” She has named her podcast after the process and interviews guests who have found their own bravery to help them work through their own special talents.

Power Gaps

Power gaps are those aspects of you that allow you to stay stuck doing things with people that make you unhappy. These gaps cause you to put up with toxic work environments, less pay than you deserve, sexual harassment, and all sorts of negativity that stops you from making the contributions that will fulfill your life’s purpose. Kathy wrote an article identifying and explaining all seven power gaps for Forbes , the first of which is “Not Recognizing Your Special Talents, Abilities and Accomplishments.”

Kathy said that when you close your power gaps, problems seem to dissolve of their own accord. You find that you will no longer allow that overbearing boss to scare you into obedience or hide your true opinions to keep the peace in difficult situations. You take the credit you deserve, gather support from influential associates and define yourself from a brave present-tense perspective.

Insights from Therapist Training

Dr. Nancy and Kathy share more insights from their mutual training in psychotherapy. Kathy said many of us still carry childhood trauma around with us and allow it to hold us back. Even seemingly supportive parental behavior can steer us in a different path from where we need to go. Listen to more of her personal story, how she discovered her own special talent, and learn more about her book, which is due out in 2020. Check out her website for more about her programs, her blog, speaking, events and personal growth resources, and to access her career path assessment to discover your own talents.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Kathy’s insights also appear in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

 

 

 

 

 

What Adolescents Think About Gender Inequality

Gender Equality

Cheryl Benton

As a successful NYC advertising professional, Cheryl Benton knows a thing or two about creating media images that create public perception, which is why she was disturbed when she saw a survey that reported US adolescent girls still perceived the #1 value for girls and women is their appearance. No matter how hard we’ve tried to change that viewpoint, girls are pressured about their looks more than ever before with the prevalence of social media and a culture that is stuck in the midst of gender inequality.

To get that needle to move, Cheryl says that we need to educate everyone. And that begins with everyone reading Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together. Cheryl says that every college campus should have it and every corporation should make it required reading. Changing people’s perception and giving a voice to women is Cheryl’s passion. She began her successful international media platform, The Three Tomatoes.com, when she began to feel invisible in her 50’s. She saw that advertisers were not speaking to her or her friends, and she decided that they could just talk to one another. Her little group of 60 people grew among women from coast to coast and around the world found messages that resonated with them also. As Head Tomato, Cheryl continues to look for ways to empower women and girls and her newest volunteer effort was to found the NYC Leadership Council for Plan International USA.

Plan International Lifting Girls Out of Poverty

Cheryl explains that Plan International has been fighting for children’s rights (mostly in developing countries) since 1937. More recently, they have realized the importance of lifting girls out of poverty. Her role with the NYC Leadership Council is to help raise awareness and funding for the “Because I’m a Girl” program. In the spring of 2018, Plan International sponsored a survey of 1,006 adolescent girls and boys about gender equality, which resulted in the report, “The State of Gender Equality for US Adolescents.”

Although 95% of teens between 10 and 19 years old believed in gender equality, there was more confusion about what that meant. Most (54%) were more comfortable with women continuing traditional roles. But there was quite a difference between boys’ and girls’ perspectives on the current status of inequality. Cheryl summarized the difference in perspectives: 21% of girls thought there is currently gender equality, while 41% of boys think there is. And over 51% of girls think it’s a problem, contrasted with only 19% of boys who think it’s an issue. Similar findings among women and men bear out that this doesn’t change much with age. However, Cheryl believes the onus is on the school systems who have no curriculum to educate children and teens about genders and sex education, and the media of course, which plays a huge role perpetuating cultural norms. And Dr. Nancy added that parents also have a responsibility to guide their children, help them see through the corrected gender lens at home, provide role models and mentor them toward achieving their goals.

Great Messages from In This Together

When Dr. Nancy asked Cheryl to share her pearls of wisdom, Cheryl started quoting things she had underlined in Dr. Nancy’s new book. One powerful line Cheryl said she noted was how are feminine traits are actually our power tools. If we perceive them that way, companies will also begin to see them as powerful assets to the business. Another piece of advice she thought was important is, “Ask for what you want.” She noted that men are so much better at negotiating than women. She urges her daughter to go in and ask for that raise, telling her how to point out what she has done for the company and why she deserves it.

Ultimately Cheryl says, the most important thing is to believe in yourself. That core belief will help us stand up to those who would tear us down. For today’s women, she sees social media as especially challenging for younger women. You have to be really strong to stand up to the naysayers and those who thrive on tearing others down.  That’s why she says the power of girl friends is so important. She hearkens back to In This Together in its advice to build your council or team of supporters to amplify your voice.

Lift As You Go

Listen to this great conversation for more information and great advice from these two Leading Women co-authors. And check out The Three Tomatoes.com website for what to do in NYC, LA and San Francisco, plus great make-over and fashion advice ,and how to buy Cheryl’s books, Can You See Us Now: A Novel for Grownups and Martini Wisdom: and Other Midlife Musings from The Three Tomatoes, must-reads for tomatoes everywhere.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Read the great advice that Cheryl mentioned and others in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

Using Connections to Reach 50/50

50/50: Rethinking the Past, Present & Future of Women + Power filmmaker

Tiffany Shlain

Emmy-nominated filmmaker Tiffany Shlain is using her skills making connections to address the important issues that shape our lives.  Not contented just to make movies, Tiffany chooses subjects to enlighten audiences about the truth that contradicts commonly-held beliefs in our society, then constructs world-wide events to connect people, get them talking, and take action on a massive scale. Her documentary, “50/50: Rethinking the Past, Present & Future of Women + Power,” set out to change the way we think about women leaders when Tiffany discovered that 50 countries in the world were being led by women presidents and prime ministers. She changed the story from one of scarcity, illustrating the need to claw our way to the top, to one of abundance, seizing on the strength and momentum we already have to get to a more balanced world. She then founded 50/50 Day, a global initiative to reach gender parity that had 36,334 live events in 68 countries and 700,000 live-streaming attendees last year. Watch the pledge video to see how you can connect.

Tiffany connects the dots, the media and the ideas about the issues that shape our world in a way that truly forges new directions. She founded the Webby Awards while in her 20’s to recognize excellence on the internet and sold it 10 years later. Then she founded her film studio in San Francisco, Let It Ripple to connect films with the power of the web to make social change, and has now presented four films at Sundance. With over 80 awards to her credit, Tiffany was honored by Newsweek as one of the “Women Shaping the 21st Century.” And also noteworthy is her inclusion as one of the 100 visionaries continuing Einstein’s legacy in the upcoming book, Genius: 100 Visions of the Future.

 

Connecting People—On Mentors and Mentoring

Tiffany said, “Everyone knows something that someone else doesn’t.” She used the example of her daughter’s elementary school where the 5th graders mentor kindergarten children. Her own mentors have come to her throughout her life: her mother, who is still living; her father, who was an author, a strong feminist and wrote about the goddess and rebalancing society; her film professor at UC Berkeley; the CEO of the male-lead publishing company she worked for while she was running the Webby Awards; women funders of her current projects, and many more. Tiffany regrets the current dynamics that make men cautious about mentoring young women. While she welcomes the current momentum to change, she urges balance and finding a way we can connect and help one another.

Everything Is Connected

Tiffany mentioned a feature documentary she made in 2011, called “Connected,”  in which she examined how we live with all of these connections today and proclaimed that instead of declaring our independence, maybe we need to proclaim our interdependence. Every one of us affects the other in so many ways that she has come to focus her work, film, discussions, events, and even her upcoming book, 24/6 Life, about how disconnecting from screens for 24 hours actually helps us get reconnected, with ourselves, what we really care about and with each other in more authentic ways.

Character Day is another global initiative connecting, movies, issues and people.  Now in its sixth year, Character Day  takes place on Sept 27 and 28, 2019, and uses short films about character (who we are in the world) to engage conversation around the world (in schools, organizations, businesses and communities) about all of the things that we do as a society and individuals that connect humanity. Tiffany has also founded Cloud Movies, where people can connect to make movies together digitally.  And of course, 24/6 Life designates every Friday night through Saturday night as the day to reconnect by disconnecting from all technology. Tiffany and her family have been doing it for over ten years and report how it puts them in charge of their technology and brings balance into their lives.

Listen to this interview for more life and society-changing ideas, details about Tiffany’s personal story and what inspired her to take her inspiring path. Then check out her website, watch some of her films and sign up for her newsletter, “Breakfast at Tiffany’s,” to stay connected and up to date. Stay tuned for her new book and sign up to participate in Character Day this coming September.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Tiffany’s inspiring messages of abundance in her film, 50/50, inspired the positive voice in Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, Her ideas are expressed, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

 

 

 

Do You Allow Money to Define Your Self-Worth?

Kathy LeMay

Kathy LeMay is an expert fundraiser and has helped raise over $175 million for social change. Yet she is the first to admit that everyone has a complicated relationship with money. People either think they don’t have enough money, or they feel guilty for having too much. Kathy says that she was raised in a struggling mill town in the 70’s. Her family, supported by a very strong mother, survived with the help of others. As an international philanthropist and founder of Raising Change, Kathy has worked with a wide range of people, from those in abject poverty to people who own multiple homes throughout the world. She knows that fortunes can disappear in an instant and that those fortunes have nothing to do with your self-worth as a human being. Yet she struggled with that issue about herself when she found that her own self-confidence and feelings of self-worth were tied to her achievements and successes, not who she is as a person.

In her self-reflection she asked herself if she lost everything, what would she have? She looked at the qualities that she valued: would she be less compassionate, have less empathy, still be thoughtful, show up and listen to her friends? Money did not define any of those qualities. Now Kathy says her attitude about money is more detached like looking at a painting that someone else painted. She is no longer affected by adjustments in her bank account. And her new perspective about her own self-worth has helped her create a more successful business.

Your Worth Is Based on the Concept, “Because You Are Here, You Matter.”

Kathy says she chose a career seeking significance rather than success and the people she has met, mentored and worked with through the years have helped her become the person she is today. Kathy began her career at 23 by volunteering to help women in war-torn Bosnia. She marvels in this conversation with Dr. Nancy about how she thought at such a young age that she could help victims of genocide, but she did help by using those qualities that give her the humanity and empathy to reach out, listen to others, and witness their plight. At the core of it is that women have far more courage than we think we do. When we listen to that small voice inside us, we naturally reach out to support others.

Next Step: In 2019 Completely Transform Fundraising Around the World

Kathy has trained hundreds, perhaps thousands of people to become social entrepreneurs, raise money and work for social change. But this past year, she developed the foundation for her next goal: to reach “the first thousand fundraisers throughout the world” with an online master class. She taught the master class to 70 people last year. These courageous people inspired her to widen the scope and develop a digital version. She promises that the at home instruction will open doors for you that you never imagined and enable you to become one of the top fundraisers in the world. Check out her website, RaisingChange.com, to see the video about it and get on the mailing list to get ready to change the world.

Listen to learn more about this amazing class and Kathy’s advice about how to defend what you feel most passionate about, and more of her insights and powerful stories about self-discovery and what defines self-worth.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Kathy’s guidance about listening also appears in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

Working Together In A United Team Creates Extraordinary Power

Working Together In A United Team Creates Extraordinary Power

Dr. Sheila Robinson

Dr. Sheila Robinson says her experience working together with a united team of women inspired her to found and publish Diversity Woman Magazine and create the Diversity Women’s Business Leadership Conference. That team united women from Asia, South America, and North America  to create the Lycra® brand for DuPont, and brought together a sisterhood of diverse races, cultures and backgrounds. She said working together like that in one location generates a synergy and extraordinary power that is indescribable.

Dr. Sheila’s purpose is to educate women that it’s okay for us to look different and come from different places.  We all want many of the same things. We want a healthy happy family, opportunities and to be safe and successful. None of us will get anywhere if we undermine each other. When we put aside our differences and unite, we are amazed at what we can accomplish together.

Never Give Up on Your Dream

Dr. Nancy mentioned how much she enjoyed seeing the young women and men who attended the Diversity Women’s Leadership Conference for the first time. She learned so much about what inclusion and sisterhood really mean. Dr. Sheila said that she was grateful for the praise and that feedback from newcomers makes the work worthwhile. She stressed that it is not easy work to do, but this time, she was able to bring more female CEO-level professionals from major corporations than ever before. It has always been her dream to bring the c-suite women together with those just starting out to show them what is possible and that they can be leaders too.

She recounted a story from a CFO speaker at this year’s conference, who said, “This is part of my ministry. I have things on my desk that have to be done, but I have to do this.” It’s that kind of dedication to helping other women that will escalate the equality needed in women’s leadership.  Dr. Nancy described a chart she saw at this year’s conference: 65% of female CEOs said they achieved their success because someone told them they could do it. These relationships between women supporting and mentoring other women give both the mentor and mentoree the drive and spirit to accomplish their goals. Sheila said her own mother pushed her to do new things and women like Dr. Johnetta Cole and Dr. Maya Angelou, said, “Don’t stop the work.” These women told her she was on the right journey.

Be Courageous and Don’t Let People in Power Derail You from Your Goals

Dr. Sheila incorporated two themes at this year’s Diversity Women’s Conference. The first one was to be courageous, no matter what. The second was a saying that she has been repeating to herself for years. What people say to you is a reflection of who they are and what you say to others is a reflection of who you are. If they say something harmful to you, it’s up to you to remember that it’s only their opinion and does not really reflect you, unless you let it. She told a story about a supervisor at one company she worked for who told her she would never be anything but an administrative assistant in that company. She immediately thought, “This is not the company for me.” She would never have become Dr. Sheila Robinson, named one of the “50 Top Women in Magazine Publishing” if she had accepted that supervisor’s limited assessment of her.

Define Yourself as a Leader First — And Other Wonderful Advice

Listen to this interview to find out why Dr. Sheila says all women are leaders, and how she says to change your perspective about who you think you are. First, identify yourself as a leader, then as a woman, then as a woman of color or ethnicity, and so on. That way you keep any limiting biases from distracting you from your course. Check out her website and save the dates, Nov. 13 & 14, 2019, to attend next year’s Diversity Women’s Business Leadership Conference to find out in person how truly powerful coming together with like minded women and men can be.

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Sheila’s stories and guidance also appear in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

What Are The Three Most Powerful Words?

Award-Winning Journalist

Michele Weldon

Award-winning journalist Michele Weldon used to ask her students at Northwestern University what the most powerful three words are. No, they are not I love you, as many would have guessed. They are “I don’t know.” This was how she taught the future reporters the importance of finding answers by asking questions. She contrasts it to women being reticent and fearful of seeming less-than when they don’t know the answer. Instead, Michele says that while saying “I don’t know” does communicate vulnerability, these three powerful words also present an opportunity to learn.

Stake Your Claim and Own Your Own Power

Women are too often reluctant to claim their own power. Michele noted she has met women who won big awards—for example sharing a Nobel Prize or winning a MacArthur Genius Grant Award ––yet didn’t mention it in their introductory bios because they feared being called a braggart or worse. In her work as Take the Lead’s editorial director, she regularly urges women to claim and use their own power. She said that it’s important for women to look at their inclinations, instincts and personal work-life experience to decide what strengths they can develop to achieve their goals, instead of focusing on what they need to apologize for.

Dr. Nancy noted that she often hears a woman say, “I’m sorry” (and talked about her response when she hears herself saying it). In her book In This Together she talks about our hidden biases, including how we’re stuck thinking of men as leaders and women as followers, when nothing can be further from the truth. Women lead their children and their husbands every day, but don’t define it as leadership. Women make the best leaders when they lead as women. She likes a quote from an unknown source, “Be the leader you want to be lead by.” You know who those people are, she says. “They inspire you; they support you; they protect you; they lift you up.” There is no better leader than an authentic role model.

Gloria Steinem—Michele’s Professional Role Model

This interview was recorded early in December, so Michele and Nancy talked about seeing one another at the upcoming play, “Gloria: A Life.” The performance was a fundraiser for Take the Lead and featured Gloria Steinem personally leading the after-play discussion. The play can be seen at the Daryl Roth Theater through March 31, 2019.

Michele said that Gloria Steinem was admirable for not just superficially performing as a feminist, but taking actions in support of feminism for 60 years ever since she was at Smith College. When Michele was a young journalism student, she followed Gloria’s career and found her to be a source of wisdom and inspiration with a graceful way of speaking about really profound ideas. She especially appreciates the way Gloria talks about the broader aspects of life beyond women’s rights and equality to include the necessity to honor humanity and her hard work against domestic abuse and child abuse globally. Both Michele and Dr. Nancy were excited to learn Gloria’s perspective about this moment in history and where we’re going.

Hear More Stories and Read Michele’s Blogs and Books

Listen to this interview for more stories and information about Michele’s upcoming new book, Act Like You’re Having a Good Time: Essays on Life, Work and Meaning, her Op Ed project that is giving a voice to people from disadvantaged groups around the world, and her editorial post at Take the Lead. And check out her website to find out more, order books or contact her for a keynote address.

 

Order Dr. Nancy’s new book or pick it up at your book store

Michele’s ideas and advice also appear in Dr. Nancy’s new book, In This Together: How Successful Women Support Each Other In Work and Life, along with thoughts, inspiration, and stories from 40 successful women across a variety of careers—from authors to actresses, CEOs and professors—encouraging women to support each other in the workplace and in life. Learn about action plans on how all women can work together to break free from the binds of gender inequality. Then remember to get your copy – and gifts for your friends.

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