Women lose hormones as the years pass. As early as age 30 women’s hormone levels begin to drop as does their zip and energy. Find ways to find your passion and enthusiasm again.
I hope you are enjoying summer fun and spending quality time with family and friends. I love to do things that make me feel like a kid again. When school lets out for the summer, it feels like time for me to begin summer vacation as well. Do you feel that way? I remember going to the pool, eating frozen candy bars, hanging out with my girlfriends and dreaming about what I wanted to do when I grew up.
Even though I don’t sun bathe anymore, I still eat the occasional (non-frozen) candy bar, hang with my women friends and still dream almost every day about my future. Some things never change. I know that finding my balance and peace and joy are still tops on my to-do list.
How is your joy level measuring up these days? Are you happy with your life and all it has to offer? I want to tell you if you are not feeling joyful, do something about it right now. When you woke up this morning did you begin your day with thanks and appreciation for what you have and who you are? I just became a grandparent again for the 6th and 7th time, and all seven are granddaughters. What a blessing. They are identical twins but each is uniquely special with her own personality and temperament, and each already knows what makes her feel safe and secure. Remind yourself how special you are—and how unique—and that there is no one like you in the whole wide world.
What gives you joy? Is it a place, a person, an experience or something that you can smell, taste, and touch? If you have forgotten some of these things bring them to mind…..a walk on the beach, your friend’s great sense of humor, or the taste of those great chocolate chip cookies hot out of the oven. Remember and close your eyes and now all those experiences are yours and no one can take them away.
One of the guest authors I interviewed recently told me she makes sure that each person she works with has a plan to be empowered and full of promise. She helps women know they have the ability to create the world they want and deserve. “Deserve” is an important word that women need to understand. It means you have a right to have a life full of joy, happiness, and to feel safe and secure. Our goal for you is that you will find your joy. You deserve joy in your life. I hope these articles help you to find more joy, more tools to be at your best, to feel revived and excited about what is around the corner. We are here for you and our promise is to keep giving information that will help you live well, laugh often and love more.
~ Dr Nancy
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I recently purchased a handgun for personal protection. I have handled guns and have shot both shotguns and hand guns but never owned by own gun. It is a strange feeling to walk into gun store pick out the gun of my choice and within seconds be cleared and able to purchase and walk out of that store with a high powered handgun. I guess I am still wondering about it all. I know I am not going to go out and rob a bank or shoot my neighbor or get mad at my hubby and blow him away. I am not about to “make my day” as Clint Eastwood warned the bad guy when he played his famous character, Dirty Harry. I have a gun and yes I have been out of estrogen for many years. I will respect my gun and use it only if someone I love is threatened or I am personally in harms way. I will use it if I have to and that is why I bought it. I have learned since telling others about my recent purchase I am not alone. The number one purchaser of handgunsare women and they are packing. Many of them are buying guns and going out and getting a “cancealed weapons license”. This means they are able with this license to carry this weapon in their purse, brief case, backpack or carry with a shoulder harness on their bodies.
I must admit this is what I also am in the process of doing. I am planning on taking an all-day class which if I pass the exam will allow me to carry my weapon on my person. Wow, I have even looked at shoulder harnesses and clips that would attach to my belt. Women are taking their second amendment right to carry a firearm. I guess sooner of later many of us decide that is time to take the initiative to protect ourselves and those they love. I have fired it several times and each time I fire it I know this is serious business. I want to be comfortable and proficient with this gun. I have decided to also name her. Yes, she is a female. I have friend and her gun’s name is Molly. I think my gun should have a very strong, exotic name like Sonja , Silvia or Brandy. I will decide soon.
Have you thought about getting a gun to protect yourself? I will keep you posted on my progress and whether or not I get my concealed weapons license. I will be honest I have not done well with my target shooting so I need to practice a lot. I promise I will not forget the danger and safety needed when you have a gun in your home. It has a safety and when my kids or grand kids are around it will get locked up. It came with a very nice gun lock with a key and everything. I hope this story as “made your day” and you know you must learn to protect yourself and never find yourself a victim of a violent crime ever. Overall I think there are really good people in this world but there are also some really nasty characthers. Have a safe and great life.
You know I often hear someone say “I thought we solved that problem”. Well the incidence and problem of domestic violence and child abuse has not been solved and still exists. In fact to be honest the numbers continue to increase. The ever increasing numbers do not reflect that many women do not report the abuse and women and chidren are still dying. I think we need to get up off our fannies and do more to end this problem. I love to hear when I find someone who is willing to do just that. Here is Melanie’s story:
I recently received a note from Melanie Luke. Melanie is a women making a difference for other women. She is 3rd year nursing student at the University of Ontario. She saw things that made her angry, made her want to speak out …so we are going to help her to do just that. She is first of all wanting the City of London to wake up and help them with their women’s shelter. The Women’s Community House (WCH) is located in London, Ontario and provides emergency shelter, second stage housing, and transitional support for abused women and their children. They need help and want to send out an appeal. I know for a fact this is only one of many shelters that need help and almost every community has a shelter that is housing these victims of violence.
The reports indicate there is rise in all types of abuse, the economy has not helped and we need to help when and where we can. Here is Melanie Luke’s contact information: email@example.com. Contact her, join her and help her find the needed support for this important shelter. We cannot let these women and children suffer in silence. If you are a victim of domestic violence you have a hotline in your community….call it and/or have someone you trust help you. We can all help and prevent and end this problem. Oh by the way it does not matter what your social status, your education, your religion or how much money you have…abuse is blind and affects all walks of life. Help a woman or child you suspect is a victim of abuse. Lastly, if you are a victim of abuse do not feel guilty and you did nothing to deserve this kind of treatment….you have worth, value and you matter to us all.
Sad but true we will all lose someone we love. We may lose a beloved pet or a Grandparent we dearly love. None of us will miss this major life changing event unless of course we ourselves head out sooner than expected. My father recently crossed over. I like to say that because that is my belief that our life is a training mission. I cannot imagine any of us can get it right the first time. Oh well, I will not bore you with my beliefs or crazy thinking. It just makes me feel better to think someone I love leaves and finds a much better place. Just like in the “Tale of Two Cities” when the aristocrats are facing their death and he says to his beloved: “it is a far better place we go to.” Doesn’t that just make it better knowing there is a party up there waiting for us when we go “home”?
OK, I am off subject again. I was telling you about my father’s passing. He was almost 91 years old and he had been at the mercy of the terrible disease, Alzheimer’s. He stayed at home and mother took care of him. He really beat all the typical symptoms of this disease and he remained sweet, considerate and helpful up to the time he took his leave. He smiled and even though he did not know who you were he was always ready with a smile and a greeting. His passing took a brief 6 days once he began his last journey and during that time my family told stories, bonded and held each other and we all said our goodbyes and well wishes to my father. We knew the time would come but when he took his last breath we held ours thinking we would hear one more. When it did not come we cried and held each other and began to put together a celebration of a life full of purpose and meaning which we knew many did not know about. It gave us all a chance to tell the world how special he was and how much he had done while on this earth. It made us all feel humble when we examined a life well lived full of love, faith and dedication to the God he served well. We gained much in this life lesson. What we also learned is how much people care and want to support you when you lose a loved one.
I am still getting cards almost three weeks later and I am humbled by the kindness and words of support I receive almost daily. It has made my mother and my family stronger and better with this out pouring of love and empathy. It is with the support of others that we can withstand anything, no matter how hard it may be. I want to thank so many people for this support and I can only say that we humans have an amazing characteristic to give to others during really difficult times. It makes living worthwhile when I see what we do for one another. I am blessed and I think we all share a common invisible bond that is there when we need it.
Today is the first day of the rest of my life and I think it is a good time to reach out and call someone you have not talked to in a while. It is a great time to lend your love and support to others and I promise you will feel wonderful and so will the person you reach out to. If you are having a hard time for whatever reason, reach out and I promise there will be a helping hand to hold and to lift you up. We are in this together and so we might as well enjoy this ride we call “life”.
We are delighted to receive this great notice from one of the reviewers at The National Association of Boomer Women. Thank you Melinda for reading Timeless Women Speak in the method suggested by Dr. Nancy in the book. The way you discuss how this increased your understanding of the intent of the authors is insightful and important for other women readers. We appreciate your thorough, thoughtful review.
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Timeless Women Speak: Feeling Youthful at Any Age
Author: Nancy D. O’ Reilly, PsyD and Margaret U. Castrey
Reviewed By: Melinda Cianos
In Feeling Youthful at Any Age the reader can expect to come face-to-face with the fear of aging. Revelations are not sugar-coated, they are realistic and no-nonsense, but they are also optimistic. Licensed psychologist Nancy O’Reilly and journalist Margaret Castrey endeavor to increase our understanding, awareness, and eventual acceptance of the aging process. They suggest going directly to the section dedicated to your particular age and then reading on to the age you will be entering before reading beginning to end. I did as I was told, began at the “forties” section, and found myself smack-dab in the middle of the book (how appropriate). Here I found the stories of several women who are facing changing bodies, hormone levels, and desires for their future. Their fears and impressions are candidly shared; Castrey and O’Reilly do a nice job allowing the voices of the forty-something women interviewed to resonate with the strength they’ve received from dispelling those fears.
Only when I read the book start to finish did I gain the clarity that I am sure was the authors’ intent: age after age, decade after decade, women’s concerns remain the same. We get the message that we are not alone in our struggle to learn how to truly love ourselves. Concerns are handled differently from woman to woman; comfort comes through the sharing of the failures and the successes so as women living in a less-than-gentle society we provide ourselves with the benefit of a collective courage. It was somewhat arresting to read about women in their twenties who are already harboring concerns about aging, already preparing to do battle with the threat of invisibility, yet I found the frankness with which the women relayed their perspective, whether it was entirely healthy or not, refreshing.
On Timeless Women Radio, Dr. Nancy interviews smart amazing women who do not let their age or circumstances define them in any way. So I thought, “Why not put the power of the Internet to work helping find guests for us?” I created a Google alert for “smart amazing women” and sat back, expecting to see a flood of news about interesting, wonderful potential guests flowing into my inbox. Disappointingly, only a few notices arrived. Come to find out, “amazing” is usually associated with women only in Biblical references, or when a woman has an AMAZING body part, or the amazing beauty treatment that takes ten years off. Also in plot lines in the latest soap operas. So-o-o-o, let me know about smart amazing women doing interesting things in the areas of health, finances, relationships, staying youthful, and all the others things we care about.
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