Book Reviews

Leading Women Co-Author Releases New Book and Documentary

March is a busy month for my Leading Women co-author Linda Rendleman. Not only does it see the release of her third book, Women Like Us – Together Changing the World, but also the premier of the documentary it inspired, Women Like Us – Three Journeys. One Mission. To Change the World, which is showing at the Los Angeles Women’s Film Festival on March 25.
“Women Like Us” – the film is a call-to-action for women everywhere as they join together and use their innate skills of compassion, courage, and voices to confront injustices and promote equality and education for all humanity. The film follows three women on a moving journey of exploration. Throughout their travels, you’ll experience their personal journeys of adversity and evolution, and witness the unimaginable social injustices women face around the globe.
Film producer Sally Colon-Petree and award-winning journalist Catt Sadler joined Linda to travel the US and Kenya and engage in conversations with over fourteen astounding women. The filmmakers impart valuable lessons learned from powerful role models such as Ida Odinga, former First Lady of Kenya; Caroline Barnett, cofounder of the Los Angeles Dream Center; CNN Hero Robin Emmons; Dianne Hudson, executive producer of the Oprah Winfrey show and many more.
Linda says that screenings of the film in tandem with book signings at locations across the country are being planned in an effort to create awareness, discussion and action for change through women’s leadership. One event is planned in Los Angeles in May, and another in Indianapolis in July.
Women Like Us – Together Changing the World focuses on the stories of well-known and little-known women who are coming together in their own way with their own voices to speak up for the vulnerable, link arms with compassion and connection, and share how the reader, in her own way, can be part of the change. I was honored to be able to contribute to this project, and share some of the lessons learned and insights gained along the way.
“I was honored to have Dr. Nancy O’Reilly as one of the authors,” Linda said. “Her story, and the stories of 18 other women, serve as a message to women and girls everywhere that yes, you too can reach out and make an impact in the world on whatever level and however you decide.”
Linda is an award-winning speaker and an author who focuses on sharing motivating and uplifting strategies to support women to be the best that they can be. Her first book, Women Like Us – Real Stories and Strategies for Living your Best Life, was published eight years ago, and was the impetus for the Women Like Us Foundation. She quickly followed that book project with Women Like Us – Illuminating the World.
The Women Like Us Foundation is committed to sustaining women’s leadership through creating awareness of women-led initiatives and granting funds. Operating under the mission of promoting gender equality and social justice through women’s leadership, increasing awareness and offering stability in key areas led by women, the Foundation envisions an educated world with equality for all individuals and collectively coming together in support of social justice. To find out more about the Women Like Us Foundation, click HERE.
 

Our Book Inspires Women to Accept Themselves as Leaders

screen-shot-2016-09-23-at-11-14-31-amBook reviewer Ettie Berneking of 417 Magazine says Leading Women changes the way women think about power and helps them formulate a new definition of women’s leadership. We’re delighted but not surprised – after all, that’s what happens when twenty smart amazing women authors reach out with messages of strength, unity and inspiration for success.
We are helping others become the leaders they were born to be! In fact, our book is helping more women of all ages become inspired to see themselves as leaders. Read Ettie’s full review “Power Play” in 417 Magazine for a more thorough look at the impact of Leading Women.

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We also heard recently from Helen Knost, a cancer survivor and Director of Donor Relations for the LIVESTRONG Foundation. She sent us this photo to share her “awesome group of LIVESTRONG’s Leading Women and our book club today. We LOVED your book, had a wonderful discussion and were incredibly inspired.”
Addison Evans, a PTSD survivor, from Albuquerque, NM, called Leading Women a life changer and only regretted that she hadn’t read it in her 20’s.
leading-women-nancy-oreilly-195x300If you’ve read the book, please send us a comment at  https://www.drnancyoreilly.com/contact-2/  to let us know how it helped you.
 

Help With Getting Older

A publisher asked me recently how the book Timeless Women Speak: Feeling Youthful At Any Age differs from other books for women at midlife.
Dr. Nancy’s research with over 1,200 women (published in the American Journal of Health Behavior) showed that nearly half were afraid of getting older.
Many women do not feel confident in the face of advancing age and want help, and this book offers specific how-to tips, steps and techniques. It shows women how to overcome their fears, isolation and invisibility.
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Anxious About Getting Older? Here’s Help!

By Dr. Nancy

Do you worry about growing older? About half of women do. Here’s a letter from one: “Please could you advise me on how to overcome anxiety. I am mostly ok during the day, but I wake up in the early hours, and have ‘butterflies’ in my stomach, and my arms feel so heavy. I have been told that I have to use an over-the-counter medicine, possibly forever. Although I have had a lot of reassurance, I am quite upset about it. It sort of smacks of getting older, and it scares me!”

Can you relate to this? Why is aging scary? Women told the WomenSpeak Project they have few role models for aging successfully. Many say their mothers never discussed “age” and they saw them simply “suffering through it”.

Behavioral scientists have shown us that we learn the most as we grow up from role models, usually our parents. These role models show us behaviors that we assimilate and then begin to duplicate everyday. These actions and behaviors are driven by beliefs, attitudes, and “world views” of these role models. If, for example, a female child watched her mother suffer with aging woes, the girl may have similar issues when she grows older.

A young girl searches for reference points that reveal how her world reacts to her. Women are bombarded by media messages that say stay “young and beautiful if you want to be loved.” At the grocery checkout she sees magazine covers of beautiful, young, glowing women smiling with perfect teeth and perfect figures. It is an impossible, airbrushed ideal that can raise fears about wrinkles, weight, and coming up short in the desirability derby if her man compares her to these beauties.

And appearance is just the start! In fact, most women worry far more about money than about their looks. The struggle to fund single motherhood or a secure retirement worries many women.

Another huge anxiety issue for women––an ‘elephant’ in the living room, as it were––is their health. Although women say their health is a major aging concern, many cannot identify any specific health issue as their focus. Although younger women have long talked freely about reproductive issues of childbearing, later in life, the term menopause remained unspoken, as did sleeping problems and mood swings, dry skin, loss of libido and “feeling out of control.” Many saw their mothers and female relatives sicken and slide complaining into an unhappy twilight.

No wonder the women we talked to struggle to grow older gracefully. They lack role models and mentors with whom they could share their thoughts, emotions and concerns about aging. My research with more than 1,000 women showed that half were afraid of getting older! That’s an epidemic of women worrying about their futures.

What can you do? First of all, stop the squirrel that is your mind from running round and round in the cage of anxious thoughts. Challenge your thinking and choose to focus on the things you can do something about.

Every woman’s body will change as the years pass.

That is inevitable. Do the best you can with a healthy diet, hydration, good skin care, and physical activities you enjoy. Pay at least as much attention to developing your inner beauty through spiritual exploration and by caring for others. After that, work on self-acceptance: ignore the flawless images in the media and talk to other women about your feelings and concerns. Adopt the attitude of cultures that revere their elders for their knowledge, wisdom and contribution as guides and teachers.

Affirmations:

  • I am a valuable human being no matter my age or my body size.
  • I am a loveable and caring person. I deserve to love and be loved.
  • I was created to be unique and special. I am like no other human being.
  • I have a special place in this world and will let my light shine.

Face up to financial anxiety

Take a hard look at your spending habits to find places you can save and begin to faithfully put that money into savings. If you truly have no pennies to spare, you might to increase your income, perhaps by improving your job performance, or even by acquiring more skills so you can get a better job. There are other women in your community who are working on these same issues, so reach out.

Affirmations:

  • I have the intelligence and talents to learn what I need to know in order to achieve my goals.
  • I am willing to spend less today so I can save for tomorrow.

Harness your health anxiety to develop good habits

By all means, examine your breasts for lumps and watch for reduced rates on community health screenings to get your blood sugar and cholesterol checked. But remember, experts say the majority of health problems plaguing American today are caused by poor lifestyle choices. Basically, that’s about eating, drinking, sitting around…AND WORRYING!! Even if a disease or condition “runs in your family,” you can greatly reduce the chances that you’ll get it by adopting a healthy lifestyle.

Affirmations:

  • I like the way I feel when I exercise and eat well.
  • I can easily and comfortably change my habits to achieve better health.
  • Taking good care of my body and mind makes me happy.
  • I deserve to take time for myself. I give myself permission now.

Get happy and feel great.

Start by identifying the single most important action you can take to fight your biggest worry, then get with your girlfriends to develop your strategies. The WomenSpeak Project found that few women openly talk about their aging concerns, so open up! Whatever your needs are, smart women working together can help. Trade childcare while you go to school or work out, share an extra job, cook together to try new healthy recipes, split inexpensive bulk food items or start an investment club to help your savings grow. Women are expert problem solvers!

WomenSpeak was founded to help women talk about their concerns about growing older. We have provided many articles and resources on our website to help women achieve their goals including dealing with an emotional condition such as anxiety or depression.

Use the link on the WomenSpeak home page for a free consultation with Dr. Nancy if you want other information about anxiety or depression. These conditions have consequences if not treated quickly and professionally, but both can be treated successfully with early intervention.

Each day, take a moment to focus on something special about yourself.

If you notice you are putting yourself down and comparing yourself to others,

STOP THAT STINKIN’ THINKIN’ RIGHT NOW.

Be good to yourself. You are worth it!

Amazing Women Find Their Zip and Zest for Life

Women lose hormones as the years pass. As early as age 30 women’s hormone levels begin to drop as does their zip and energy. Find ways to find your passion and enthusiasm again.

More Reader Reviews for Timeless Women

Whether you are 29, 99, or someplace in between, you will find this touching, inspirational book to be a positive guide to living life to the fullest. This book is exactly what women at all stages of life need to reach their full potential. ~Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall, Co-founders, Women’s Institute for Financial Education (WIFE.org)

WomenSpeak“The authors make a unique contribution to the literature on women because they discuss in detail, based on their research, the specific issues most troubling to women. This is a book that everyone in the family should read: grandmothers, mothers, and their daughters, as well as the men in their lives, in order to understand the most common pressing challenges of women brought by each decade of life.” ~Janet Horn, MD, co-author, The Smart Woman’ s Guide to Midlife and Beyond: A No-Nonsense Approach to Staying Healthy after 50.
WomenSpeak“This inspiring book shows women the breadth of their choices and possibilities for endless personal growth. Women have a gift for personal honesty and for story telling and the two come together in this book to help us know each other, draw strength from one another and teach each other. There is a lot of wisdom in this book. It’s a tonic to read.” ~Pepper Schwartz, PhD, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love and the Sensual Years (HarperCollins, 2008)

WomenSpeak I have had a chance to read your book (sections) and it is a great format, really interesting and informative. I got Cindy a copy and she said how much it helped her in knowing others in her age bracket have the same feelings, anxieties, etc. that she does. She really liked it. She said she would e-mail you, but I thought I’d share right now. With the 5 boys, sometimes, it takes her a while to find time to do these things. ~Susie W.
WomenSpeakThis book shows the variety of ways women handle aging, at all stages of life. The 45 percent of women who are not coping well can learn from successful women to embrace aging and the wisdom that comes with it. It’s interesting that women are often the hardest on other women, and that a lot of the hang ups women have about aging involve how they feel they will be perceived by other WOMEN, not men! We have got to stop looking at other women as competition, and help mentor and support each other. The authors give age-specific tasks to help embrace aging and to learn to value ourselves more. We are more than our physical appearance! Throughout the book, the importance of mentoring and being supportive of other women is key. A helpful guide for all women! ” ~Deborah Hill-Busselle, M.D.

WomenSpeak

“Dr. Nancy O’Reilly surveyed over 1200 women and learned that nearly half fear aging. Their book reviews individual psychosocial histories and offers suggestions to navigate successfully through each decade of life. This book is invaluable for anyone, man or woman, who wants to better understand the process of aging and receive helpful guidance.” ~Kathleen Farmer, PsyD, Co-author, Managing Migraine, A Patient’s Guide and Managing Migraine, A Physician’s Guide
WomenSpeak“Women are needing and wanting to be heard and this book gives us a voice. It will add to ‘women’s world.’ The authors share their personal perspectives, which brings the book to life as do the stories of persons in each age group. I got teary eyed as some parts reminded me of my mom, whom I lost in April. I realized how fortunate I was with her role model for aging; she didn’t think of herself as old until about three days before she died. This book will touch women, and cause them to reflect, and to be grateful. You have made a significant contribution to women’s awareness, personal growth, and unique issues.” ~Fran Anderson, PsyD

More Testimonials about Timeless Women Speak

Whether you are 29, 99, or someplace in between, you will find this touching, inspirational book to be a positive guide to living life to the fullest. This book is exactly what women at all stages of life need to reach their full potential. ~Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall, Co-founders, Women’s Institute for Financial Education (WIFE.org)
WomenSpeak“The authors make a unique contribution to the literature on women because they discuss in detail, based on their research, the specific issues most troubling to women. This is a book that everyone in the family should read: grandmothers, mothers, and their daughters, as well as the men in their lives, in order to understand the most common pressing challenges of women brought by each decade of life.” ~Janet Horn, MD, co-author, The Smart Woman’ s Guide to Midlife and Beyond: A No-Nonsense Approach to Staying Healthy after 50.
WomenSpeak“This inspiring book shows women the breadth of their choices and possibilities for endless personal growth. Women have a gift for personal honesty and for story telling and the two come together in this book to help us know each other, draw strength from one another and teach each other. There is a lot of wisdom in this book. It’s a tonic to read.” ~Pepper Schwartz, PhD, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love and the Sensual Years (HarperCollins, 2008)
I have had a chance to read your book (sections) and it is a great format, really interesting and informative. I got Cindy a copy and she said how much it helped her in knowing others in her age bracket have the same feelings, anxieties, etc. that she does. She really liked it. She said she would e-mail you, but I thought I’d share right now. With the 5 boys, sometimes, it takes her a while to find time to do these things. ~Susie W.
WomenSpeakThis book shows the variety of ways women handle aging, at all stages of life. The 45 percent of women who are not coping well can learn from successful women to embrace aging and the wisdom that comes with it. It’s interesting that women are often the hardest on other women, and that a lot of the hang ups women have about aging involve how they feel they will be perceived by other WOMEN, not men! We have got to stop looking at other women as competition, and help mentor and support each other. The authors give age-specific tasks to help embrace aging and to learn to value ourselves more. We are more than our physical appearance! Throughout the book, the importance of mentoring and being supportive of other women is key. A helpful guide for all women! ” ~Deborah Hill-Busselle, M.D.



“Dr. Nancy O’Reilly surveyed over 1200 women and learned that nearly half fear aging. Their book reviews individual psychosocial histories and offers suggestions to navigate successfully through each decade of life. This book is invaluable for anyone, man or woman, who wants to better understand the process of aging and receive helpful guidance.” ~Kathleen Farmer, PsyD, Co-author, Managing Migraine, A Patient’s Guide and Managing Migraine, A Physician’s Guide
WomenSpeak“Women are needing and wanting to be heard and this book gives us a voice. It will add to ‘women’s world.’ The authors share their personal perspectives, which brings the book to life as do the stories of persons in each age group. I got teary eyed as some parts reminded me of my mom, whom I lost in April. I realized how fortunate I was with her role model for aging; she didn’t think of herself as old until about three days before she died. This book will touch women, and cause them to reflect, and to be grateful. You have made a significant contribution to women’s awareness, personal growth, and unique issues.” ~Fran Anderson, PsyD



Women Review Timeless Women Speak

Marci Schimoff Happy for No Reason author

Dr. Nancy, I loved this book. It’s absolutely wonderful the way that you show women of all ages how they can regain their power and make the best possible journey as they grow older through life. I think that you give fantastic support and validation and great tools to deal with growing older. The research you did was fabulous. I didn’t know women in their 20s and 30s had the greatest fear of getting older, so it really applies to women of all ages. And of course I love the stories! So, thank you for doing such a great job in putting together a book that is an important book for our time. ~ Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of “Happy for No Reason.”

 


 

Pepper Schwartz Finding Your Perfect Match author

This inspiring book shows women the breadth of their choices and possibilities for endless personal growth. Women have a gift for personal honesty and for story telling and the two come together in this book to help us know each other, draw strength from one another and teach each other. There is a lot of wisdom in this book. It’s a tonic to read.” ~Pepper Schwartz, PhD, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington and author of Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love and the Sensual Years

 


 

Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall founders of Womens Institute of Financial Education

Whether you are 29, 99, or someplace in between, you will find this touching, inspirational book to be a positive guide to living life to the fullest. This book is exactly what women at all stages of life need to reach their full potential. ~Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall, Co-founders, Women’s Institute for Financial Education (WIFE.org)

 


 

Debra Hill-Buselle, MD OB/GYN Women's Health Educator It’s interesting that women are often the hardest on other women, and that a lot of the hang ups women have about aging involve how they feel they will be perceived by other WOMEN, not men! We have got to stop looking at other women as competition, and help mentor and support each other. The authors give age-specific tasks to help embrace aging and to learn to value ourselves more. We are more than our physical appearance! Throughout the book, the importance of mentoring and being supportive of other women is key. A helpful guide for all women! ” ~Deborah Hill-Busselle, M.D.

 


 

Readers Give Good Reviews

marcischimoff2008 “In a time when the media bombards us with negative stereotypes of aging and unrealistic expectations of beauty, Dr. O’Reilly and Maggie Castrey share a positive and important message. Rather than focus on the negative aspects of getting older, they offer inspiration to move forward through each stage of life with grace and confidence and wisdom.”
~ Marci Shimoff, New York Times bestselling author of Happy for No Reason


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“This inspiring book shows women the breadth of their choices and possibilities for endless personal growth….There is a lot of wisdom in this book. It’s a tonic to read.”
~Pepper Schwartz, PhD, Professor of Sociology, University of Washington, author, Prime: Adventures and Advice about Sex, Love and the Sensual Years



100409DebraHillBusselle “We are more than our physical appearance! Throughout the book, the importance of mentoring and being supportive of other women is key. A helpful guide for all women! ”
~Deborah Hill-Busselle, M.D.






Candace&Ginita“Whether you are 29, 99, or someplace in between, you will find this touching, inspirational book to be a positive guide to living life to the fullest. This book is exactly what women at all stages of life need to reach their full potential.”
~Candace Bahr and Ginita Wall,Co-founders, Women’s Institute for Financial Education (WIFE.org)


Book Review from Boomer Women Speak

We are delighted to receive this great notice from one of the reviewers at The National Association of Boomer Women. Thank you Melinda for reading Timeless Women Speak in the method suggested by Dr. Nancy in the book.  The way you discuss how this  increased your understanding of the intent of the authors is insightful and important for other women readers. We appreciate your thorough, thoughtful review.
Read Melinda’s complete review below, or go to The NABBW website and check out other great information they have to share.
Timeless Women Speak: Feeling Youthful at Any Age
Author: Nancy D. O’ Reilly, PsyD and Margaret U. Castrey
Reviewed By: Melinda Cianos
In Feeling Youthful at Any Age the reader can expect to come face-to-face with the fear of aging. Revelations are not sugar-coated, they are realistic and no-nonsense, but they are also optimistic. Licensed psychologist Nancy O’Reilly and journalist Margaret Castrey endeavor to increase our understanding, awareness, and eventual acceptance of the aging process. They suggest going directly to the section dedicated to your particular age and then reading on to the age you will be entering before reading beginning to end. I did as I was told, began at the “forties” section, and found myself smack-dab in the middle of the book (how appropriate). Here I found the stories of several women who are facing changing bodies, hormone levels, and desires for their future. Their fears and impressions are candidly shared; Castrey and O’Reilly do a nice job allowing the voices of the forty-something women interviewed to resonate with the strength they’ve received from dispelling those fears.
Only when I read the book start to finish did I gain the clarity that I am sure was the authors’ intent: age after age, decade after decade, women’s concerns remain the same. We get the message that we are not alone in our struggle to learn how to truly love ourselves. Concerns are handled differently from woman to woman; comfort comes through the sharing of the failures and the successes so as women living in a less-than-gentle society we provide ourselves with the benefit of a collective courage. It was somewhat arresting to read about women in their twenties who are already harboring concerns about aging, already preparing to do battle with the threat of invisibility, yet I found the frankness with which the women relayed their perspective, whether it was entirely healthy or not, refreshing.

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