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Why Leading Women Are Better for Congress

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Why Leading Women Are Better for Congress
Women in Congress are getting things done, says a new study. Dr. Nancy D. O’Reilly explains why women in Congress are so effective at making progress together and on their own.
Santa Barbara, CA (March 2015)—A new study from Quorum shows that women in Congress are working hard (and together) to make real progress. In addition to other impressive statistics, the startup reports that women in the Senate are more active than their male counterparts, with individual women senators introducing 96.31 bills on average to the men’s 70.72 bills. They’re also more successful—2.31 bills created by female senators were enacted over the last seven years compared to only 1.57 bills from male senators.
Dr. Nancy D. O’Reilly, author of Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life (Adams Media, 2015, ISBN: 978-1-440-58417-6, $16.99, www.drnancyoreilly.com), isn’t surprised by women lawmakers’ success.
“In Congress, in business, and in everyday life, women’s natural strengths are becoming more valuable,” says O’Reilly. “We’re embracing the sisterhood of women out there who are passionate, full of purpose, and driven to change the world.”
In her book, O’Reilly brought together 20 nationally acclaimed women authors to share their real-life advice for breaking free of women’s traditional limitations in work and community. Coauthors include New York Times and Amazon best-selling authors, corporate coaches, an Emmy Award-winning television host, and more.

Importance of Natural Feminine Skills to National and Global Leadership

“Women’s power and influence are set to explode,” says O’Reilly. “We have the natural skills needed in a global economy that values collaboration and innovation.”
What are those natural skills? O’Reilly pinpoints the “feminine” traits that women in Congress (and everywhere!) are using to their advantage.

Women are great collaborators.

A Bloomberg.com article that slices and dices Quorum’s findings points out that women in Congress cosponsor more bills with each other than do the men. An explanation, notes the article, could be that because there are fewer women in Congress, they form strong bonds that contribute to collaboration. An example is the monthly, bipartisan supper club for female senators. In fact, the club may have led to the impressive number of bipartisan, cosponsored bills from Sen. Lisa Murkowski (R-AK), who cosponsored 445 bills with Democrats, and Sen. Amy Klobuchar (D-MN), who cosponsored 200 bills with Republicans.
“Women are adept at creating conditions of mutuality, equality, and trust—all of which are necessary for team members to feel comfortable enough to share ideas and take risks,” observes O’Reilly. “When we join forces, the benefits have a powerful ripple effect that extends well beyond the original participants. No individual woman is as creative, skilled, or powerful as we are together.”

Women are willing mentors.

Among women senators, she’s known as “Coach Barb.” To the rest of the world, she’s the soon-to-retire, longest-serving woman in Congress, Senator Barbara Mikulski (D-MD). As “Coach Barb,” Mikulski became mentor to every woman who has been elected to the Senate in recent years. In the Bloomberg.com article, Sen. Mikulski explains that she brings the women senators in for her “Senate Power Workshop” where she explains “how to get started, how to get on the good committees for her state, and how to be an effective senator.”
Women know the significance of a helping hand, mutual support, and mentorship, and we value the satisfaction and meaning that come from aiding others.
“Giving your time, knowledge, understanding, empathy, and support to other people can have a huge ROI,” observes O’Reilly. “Be especially vigilant for opportunities to help other women by being a sponsor or mentor. This can lead to improved opportunities for both of you via reciprocity. Plus, it sets a positive example and is good karma. Helping other women claim their power and passion is always a sound investment. When the hands that rock the cradle join together, they really can rule the world.”

Women recognize the importance of “crossing the aisle.”

A 2013 Time.com article chronicles how in October 2013 women in the Senate crossed the aisle to end the government shutdown as Maine’s Susan Collins publicly implored the need to “come together” and Sen. Mikulski backed her up by voicing her willingness to compromise. The article reveals these public statements on the Senate floor were really the result of a bipartisan dinner attended by most of the Senate’s 20 women members that had taken place the night before in New Hampshire Sen. Jeanne Shaheen’s offices. The women in the Senate had thrown down the gauntlet, and these first steps were what led to the eventual end of the government shutdown.
“It’s a natural human tendency to seek out and spend time with people who share our viewpoints, opinions, attitudes, and methods,” says O’Reilly. “But smart women recognize the importance of crossing the aisle. They seek out women who have skills and strengths they don’t already have. Remember that as long as respect and civility are present, debates and disagreements are a good thing. That’s how amazing, higher-level creativity is fueled.”

Women know progress comes from mutual respect.

The examples above show that women in the Senate have learned to work together despite their differences. Of course, the progress they’ve made together wouldn’t have been possible if they were also engaged in back-stabbing or name-calling. To prevent that kind of pettiness from derailing what they want to accomplish, the Time.com article points out that amongst women in the Senate there is an “unspoken rule” against publicly criticizing one another.
“Nothing squashes creativity and innovation faster than a perceived lack of respect for others’ opinions,” says O’Reilly. “And that is something women in Congress have come to understand when it comes to lawmaking. It isn’t always comfortable, but setting aside your original vision and staying open to 360-degree feedback is the best way to spot problems, work out kinks, and discover the most innovative ideas.”

Women know the importance of truly listening.

In the Time.com article, North Dakota Senator Heidi Heitkamp suggests that women in the Senate are simply good at listening to one another.
“Being able to truly listen is a skill that all women should work to strengthen,” says O’Reilly. “Practice being interested rather than interesting. When you’re talking to someone new, ask her about herself and really listen to her answer.”
“What we’re seeing in Congress is a microcosm of what’s happening with women across the country,” says O’Reilly. “In the past, some women have allowed low self-esteem and fear to drain their power and block the amazing connections they could have been making. But now the pendulum is swinging the other way, and a whole new movement has begun. Women have finally realized that connection and collaboration, not competition, is the answer.”

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About the Author:
Nancy D. O’Reilly, PsyD, is an author of Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life and urges women to connect to help each other create a better world. As a licensed psychologist, motivational speaker, and women empowerment expert, O’Reilly helps women create the satisfying and purposeful lives they want to benefit themselves, their families, and their communities. To accomplish this, she devotes her energies to fulfilling the mission of the Women Connect4Good, Inc., foundation, which benefits from her writing and speaking services. O’Reilly is the founder of Women Connect4Good, Inc., and for seven years she has interviewed inspiring women for online podcasts available on her website.
For more information, please visit www.drnancyoreilly.com and follow the author on Facebook and Twitter.
About the Book:
Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business, and Life (Adams Media, 2015, ISBN: 978-1-440-58417-6, $16.99, www.drnancyoreilly.com) is available at bookstores nationwide and from online booksellers.

Women’s Health and Relationships

stockxpertcom_id6024201_jpg_d06d824a29fa2d6f5bfd723acb973282It has long been debated whether or not getting married to live “happily ever after” is good for you. Studies are proving it has no positive impact…on women’s health, that is. Men, on the other hand, seem to receive significant benefits from long term relationships or wedded bliss.

Does Marriage Bring Better Health?

Four years ago the idea that marriage is good for your health received a boost. Researchers at Ohio State University wrapped up a 20 year study of 90 married couples and found that couples who reported low levels of stress were less prone to illness than those who had conflict-ridden marriages. The key to these results may lie in the effects of conflict on the immune system. The researchers reasoned that positive marital relations help people avoid stress, which means that marriage partners produce lower levels of the stress-related hormones, such as cortisol.
When researchers looked at whether or not husbands and wives benefitted equally from a good marriage, the answer seemed to be “no.” Married men had fewer illnesses than the wives whether the marriage was good or bad.
Fast-forward to 2015, and a new study on health and marriage finds that women still hardly benefit from tying the knot. Research by University College London, the London School of Economics and The London School of Hygiene and Tropical Medicine found that single women do not suffer the same negative health effects as unmarried men. In fact, middle-aged women who had never married had virtually the same chance of developing metabolic syndrome as married women. Researchers also found that not marrying or cohabiting is less detrimental among woman than men.

How Women Respond to Breakups

Love and marriage sometimes end in divorce or heartbreak, and according to a new study published in Evolutionary Behavioral Sciences  women are more negatively affected by breakups than men, experiencing more emotional and physical pain after a split. However, women actually recover more fully than men.
Researchers surveyed 5,705 participants in 96 countries about their romantic splits—including the severity of their breakup, who initiated it, and what went wrong in the relationship. While women fared worse when it came to emotional pain, they were also more likely to do the breaking up than men—despite facing a more painful road to recovery.
Why are women more likely to pull the plug, if they’re going to end up hurt? Research points out that women take the risk because they “have so much more to lose” by being with the wrong person—at least according to evolutionary biology theory which teaches that men compete and women choose. Men are wired to gather resources and battle other men for the best female, whereas women are wired to be selective.

Be True To Yourself

Whether in a relationship, recovering from heartbreak, or relishing the single life, the most important thing you can do for your health and well-being is to be true to yourself. There has never been a better time to be a woman. Take time to truly connect with the women in your life, because connections matter. When women reach out and connect with each other, it not only helps each woman step into her own power, it changes their lives, and ultimately it can help us change the world.
 

Roxi Hewertson – Be the CEO of Your Own Life

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Roxi Hewertson

Whether you’re managing people or your own life, the key to masterful leadership is knowing who you are and becoming very good at understanding the people you come into contact with. This is just one nugget of leadership wisdom Roxi Hewertson, CEO of The Highland Group Consulting, Inc., has learned during her 30 years of serving as a leader and teaching and coaching others to develop masterful leadership skills. Roxi says the most visionary leaders in the world understood themselves, their purpose and their mission and were able, not just to communicate it, but to connect with others on the same level.
Lead Like It Matters Because It DoesRoxi’s purpose is to develop leaders who can transform the world with positive, powerful leadership. In fact she blames many of the world’s problems on the lack of effective leaders. People aren’t taught to lead. They reach a certain level in their career and are given management positions with no training. It’s no wonder so many fail. Roxi says you need to expect to make mistakes. She has made plenty and learned from all of them. Now she has written the book all leaders need to read, Lead Like It Matters…Because It Does: Practical Leadership Tools to Inspire and Engage Your People and Create Great Results.
 
Women and Men Lead Differently
When men use their naturally balanced right brain-left brain approach to leadership, they are very successful. When women use their balanced heart-head right brain-left brain skills, they are very successful. Women tend to focus more on the process, while men focus more on results. It’s natural, but a balance needs to be achieved. Roxi says it makes no sense for women to try to lead like men. We need to own our skills and share them to help men become more effective leaders. Women are great collaborators and relationship people and we need to use those skills in a leaderly and mindful way.
Women have few feminine leader role models, so have taken their lead from men. For decades that means command and control leadership—the do-what-I-say, rugged individualist model. However, Roxi points out that good leadership is completely about relationships. She notes that her best manager was a very quiet man. Good leaders are not necessarily the ones that step up and take center stage. They are self-aware, frequently introverted and very aware of others. This makes them good listeners and keen relationship builders.
Balanced Leadership Needed Now
With today’s increasingly connected world, we need more women leaders. Roxi urges women to step up, accept the role and become a role model for future generations. First, become the leader of yourself, then your family and your community. Women shy away from leadership for a multitude of reasons, which are all caused by our culture:

  • We’ve been socialized to be the victim and depend on others.
  • Our reference group (other women) chide us for “being too big for our britches.”
  • We allow obstacles of criticism and fear of failure to prevent us from trying.
  • Women still think in terms of scarcity: the more for you the less is for me.

Roxi and Dr. Nancy both call for support from other women. When we take control of our own lives and a purpose we care about, we can do anything.
Listen to more inspirational wisdom in this interview and check out Ask Roxi.com to get your questions answered and learn more about her leadership training programs and her book, Lead Like It Matters….Because It Does, to help you acquire practical wisdom to become the very successful CEO of your own life.

Christine Arylo – Self Love Silences Inner Mean Girl

Author, Speaker

Christine Arylo

Christine Arylo has silenced her own inner mean girl by creating a healthy relationship with self-love. Once a confirmed achievement junkie, Christine now proclaims herself to be “The Queen of Self-Love,” and with this new title, she is writing and teaching others how to identify their own inner mean girls and to quiet their self-bullying to live happy, fulfilling lives.
If you find yourself thinking that no matter what you do, it’s not enough, or volunteering for everything when you can’t keep up with what you have, you need to listen to this interview and check out Christine’s new book, Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 Steps to Stop Bullying Yourself & Start Loving Yourself, which she co-authored with Amy Ahlers.

 How the Inner Mean Girl Can Cause Real Harm

Inner-Mean-Girl-bookAlthough Christine has invented playful ways to deal with your inner mean girl, she also lists awful things that happen to women because of the stress they endure every day. For example: more women die of heart disease than any other natural cause; 60% of women see a doctor for stress-related health problems. Yet women continue to push themselves. The committed “doing addicts” keep doing it all themselves, no matter what IBS or other symptoms plague them.
Also, inner mean girls become outer mean girls and take their frustration out on others. Christine says not all mean girls are mean, but driven by fear and inner lack of self-love, they become sneaky, catty, manipulative back-stabbers. This path is not good for anyone.

 Inner Mean Girl Reform School

Christine and Amy include many inner-wisdom tools with the book, including quizzes to help you identify your inner mean girl(s), live streaming to connect virtually and in person with others reforming their inner mean girls and more. Check out their inner-wisdom blog for more important tips, videos and meditations.
This interview shares more humorous advice and insights into how much easier you can make your life and live your dreams by reaching out for help and making a difference with other women. Dr. Nancy and Christine agree it’s important to give yourself permission to love yourself and get out of the rat race caused by what others tell you to be, and even hug your inner mean girl once in awhile.

Giving Hope Is Aurea McGarry’s Legacy

Speaker and founder of Live Your Legacy Summits

Aurea McGarry

Aurea McGarry founded her Live Your Legacy Summits to give people hope that no matter what happened to them they could cope with it and not just survive, but “sur-thrive.” Aurea is living proof of this optimism. Born with a silver spoon in her mouth, her father was murdered when she was 15; she had an abusive marriage in her 20’s and cancer that doctors said would leave her without the ability to speak.
In response, she created a TV series, “Live Your Legacy” to showcase non-profits and people who were doing good in the world. She won an Emmy Award for emceeing the show and went on to found the Live Your Legacy Summits. Aurea attributes her strong faith in God to getting her through it, and sees her legacy as a service to others.

Live Your Legacy Summits Provide Hope

Aurea compares the Summits to match-making. She connects the non-profits, entrepreneurs, and retailers – representing a broad spectrum of age groups and experience – and introduces them to others who can help them. Speakers from all over the country inspire and share their stories and expertise to help attendees find their legacies. Then they network in the mastermind sessions and learn how to fine tune, finance and publicize their legacies. The Summits honor women, men and even teens who are living their legacy to show and inspire others with their achievements and drive to make a difference in the world.

Aurea’s Chapter in Leading Women

In her chapter, “Live Your Legacy: Leadership, Philanthropy and Transformation,” Aurea shares many of the details of her personal story, her struggles to become a “sur-thriver” and her passion for helping others to live their legacy. Aurea says that today, it’s not all about money. She fears that if people don’t seek out their legacy, they will look back and regret that they didn’t do more to help others during their lives.

Your Legacy Leaves an Imprint on the World

Dr. Nancy quotes Mother Teresa’s guidance of, “feed one,” adding her thoughts about how different the world would be if one person did one gentle act of kindness each day. Aurea says that she sees many more neighborly acts happening since the economic crisis of 2008. She said people are taking their neighbors covered dishes and reaching out to help in all ways. Listen to this interview to hear more ideas about the benefits of creating a kinder, gentler world.
Check out Aurea’s Live Your Legacy Summit website and her Aurea McGarry website for new and exciting ventures as she continues to develop her legacy of spreading good news and hope for a better world.
 

Kristin Andress – Setting Intentions for a New Year

Author, Consultant, Speaker

Kristin Andress

Bestselling author, Kristin Andress prefers setting intentions instead of goals for the New Year. She says that intentions require actions, while goals may not. Her intention in all of her consultant work and writing is to help others understand how to live the deliberate life she has set for herself, to wake up and pay attention to that intention, check it regularly and make sure you’re still on track. She says it’s a matter of perspective; intention focuses more on how you choose to be instead of what you want to do.
In this inspiring and practical conversation, Dr. Nancy and Kristin talk about how we all try to make each New Year the best year ever, but then lose our determination as we get caught up in the busyness of life and end the year not having achieved what we wanted. So how do we get beyond that barrier to living the life we intended?

Three Qualities to Create the Life You Intend

Kristin says the biggest thing you can do for yourself is to

  • Be proactive
  • Take initiative
  • Be persistent.

These qualities make all the difference between just going through life and creating the life you choose. Dr. Nancy adds that both Stedman Graham (Kristiin’s client for 11 years) and Oprah Winfrey advise us not to wait around. Oprah says, “If you’re waiting for someone to make you happy, they’re not coming.” Stedman says too many of us go through life in the box we created for ourselves and don’t even think about how to get out. Kristin agrees that it’s important to take responsibility for your own life, choose your own direction and take the reins of life in hand.

Kristin’s Chapter in Leading Women

The title of Kristin’s chapter is “The Power of Perspective and Perception.” Dr. Nancy reads from it, “When you focus on mastering your mind and thus your perception and perspective, you discover different paths in the landscape of your possibilities.” Then she goes on to talk about why Kristin was chosen to contribute to Leading Women: 20 Influential Women Share Their Secrets to Leadership, Business and Life. Kristin has been in the trenches. She is a small town girl, who managed a multi-million dollar budget while managing an international staff for Arthur Andersen, then co-wrote a book that is still on the best seller list, Imagine Being in a Life You Love, and now consults and strategizes for thought-leaders, corporations and even governments. Beyond this track record, she is one of 20 women who have chosen to help other women by sharing their insights gained from years of traveling their path to a successful life.

The Economics of Goodness

Kristin was recently invited to co-author a new book, due out in March, called The Economics of Goodness. Dr. Ron Jenson, who has been part of Campus Crusade for Christ, came up with the idea of how good begets good. Kristin says throughout the holidays, the line from the Christmas song, “Be good for goodness sake” rang in her ears. She predicts that the book will be easily digestible and contain stories and anecdotes about good things the U.S. has done historically and not-so-good things that need to be changed and how we as individuals can contribute to goodness in the world.

Choose Your Word for the New Year

One of the things Dr. Jenson suggested to guide Kristin’s intentions for the New Year was to choose a word to reflect how you want to be for the year. Kristin chose “peacefulness.” She said one of her friends chose “fearless” and another chose “happiness.”
Learn more practical advice about how you can change your perspective in small ways to live life the way you want by being true to yourself, developing positive self-talk and transforming your life through simple acts of kindness in this conversation. And check out Kristin’s website for more information about her work today.

 

Domestic Violence In The News – Every Woman Matters

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The issue of domestic violence slammed its way into most water cooler conversations with the shocking video of Baltimore Ravens’ Ray Rice striking his then-fiancée, Janay Palmer in an elevator in Las Vegas.
As a licensed psychologist and a long-time board member of the Victim Center, I have heard many terrifying personal stories from women seeking shelter from their abusers. The statistics tell an even more powerful story because of the sheer numbers of women they represent. It’s a huge problem, which is why we offer so many helpful and inspiring articles on my foundation’s website, WomenConnect4Good.org.
The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reports more than 31 percent of women in the U.S. have been physically abused by an intimate partner, and an estimated 22.3 percent have experienced severe physical violence on at least one occasion. A recent article in The Washington Post also reports that the CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey released staggering numbers in terms of non-physical abuse – reporting that nearly half of women in the U.S. having been subjected to at least one act of psychological or emotional aggression by an intimate partner, including threats and coercion.

Violence Against Women Will No Longer Be Tolerated

This is not okay, and if the NFL’s response to this latest issue with Rice and the public backlash that has followed is any indication, violence against women will no longer be tolerated in any arena. In fact, this incident proves that women are standing by to help one another, no matter what the circumstances, and work together to empower and lift each other up. However, this is not just a gender issue. Finally, men are also outraged, and speaking loud and clear, putting pressure on the NFL to take action on this, and in turn let male athletes and fans know that abusive behavior is NOT okay.

We Need To Be A Voice For Other Women

As this recent evidence proves, domestic violence is a widespread problem that can occur to anyone. Abuse is blind to age, race, geography and socioeconomic status. No one is immune. If it affects one of us, it affects all of us. That is why each of us must raise our voice to help current abuse victims and to stop future violence.

How Can We Help Abuse Victims

It’s important to learn more about domestic violence and the warning signs. The more you know, the easier it will be to recognize it and help friends who may be victims or perpetrators. Some early warning signs include:

  • extreme jealousy
  • controlling behavior
  • threats
  • a history of violent tendencies
  • frequent verbal or emotional insults.

Resources For Women

Services are available for victims and their children in case you or a friend should need help. A local battered women’s shelter, family physician, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or (1-800-787-3224 TTY) is available 24 hours a day, seven days a week and offers help and advice, and the National Domestic Violence Hotline website also provides resources.

Every Woman Matters

Lastly, if you are a victim of abuse, do not feel guilty. That is what the abuser wants you to feel. Remember, no matter what he tells you, you did nothing to deserve this kind of treatment. You have worth; you have value and you truly matter to us all.
To read more about the latest surrounding Rice, and the domestic violence statistics that are coming to light, go to The Washington Post. 

Proving Them Wrong is a Great Motivator for Young Woman

tenishaedwardsWe heard recently from a young woman named Tenisha Edwards who has a  business making inspirational t-shirt for girls.

Tenisha’s Story

Back when I was just a young girl, I remember being taken away in the police car, my mother had been missing in action all night,” recalls Tenisha. “From that day on for a very long time, I felt I was born to win but left to lose in this thing called life. My journey of  not feeling Loved and low self esteem began.

My first foster home was a devastating experience, they always called my mother “crazy” and for a 9 year old girl, if mom is crazy then I must be crazy too. They always talked bad about me as if  I was not even there, they laughed at me because I didn’t know how to put on a training bra at the age of nine.  The other kids in the home got new clothes and I got hand me downs.

The next foster home was absolutely unhealthy … my foster dad wanted to have sex with me and would peek in on me while I was taking a shower. He told me that I was lucky to even talk to a man like him and I remember thinking if that’s lucky, I don’t ever want anything to do with luck. He also told me that I was too dark and my hair was nappy and my nose was big … oh yeah, lets not forget That I would amount to “NOTHING” in my life.

It was in that moment that I decided that even though my parents left me and no one wanted or loved me and everyone in my life at that time made sure I didn’t forget it, that I would “BREAK THROUGH” and do great things with my life.

I have a line of inspirational t shirts. My mission is to Inspire Real Life success for girls. My passion for this came from my experience growing up in foster care from age 9 until I was 18 years old and having no positive role models in my own life.

I want to help young girls live life with purpose, passion and positivity and to know that no matter where you come from success is achievable. I give a percentage of the proceeds to Girl Talk www.desiretoinspire.org. I have designed my shirts to inspire and lift the spirits of all who wear them, as well as those who see them. Our Inspirational Tees were created from our hearts to yours as a tribute to celebrating life, embracing change, taking risk, and experiencing peace and joy.

Naturally there is nothing more important for you to do than to be … There is nothing better you can be than you naturally … Inspiring Real Life Success for young girls!

Dr Nancy’s Comments

I asked Tenisha what made it possible for her to rise above these tough times, and this is what she said:”Everyone in my life growing up told me that I would end up just like my mother and that was my motivation to rise above … I was determined not to be like her and people also told me that I would amount to “Nothing” in my life and that motivated me to do great things with my life and make a difference.”

Personally, I have to thank a high school counselor who told me to not even think about college and that I should instead consider a technical school or being a secretary…nice to prove them wrong isn’t it?

Women Helping Women

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If you want to find something, a place, a service or some good advice, whom will you ask? A woman, of course! Women are the greatest Yellow Pages resource ever. If you like what she is wearing, or reading, or the cut and color of her hair, a woman is happy to tell you all about it. Is this a maternal, hormonal trait or just social training? Whatever the cause, women will open up to the universe and help just about anyone.

Women Helping Women is Better Than The Yellow Pages

I have been a therapist for over half of my life and have shared many women’s walks through life. I have found women will love and care freely for others, but they are not so caring of themselves. Many women feel they have no one to talk to, no one with whom they can share their issues. Many say they do not want to burden others with their problems, because they do not want to let someone else down! Women come into this world with a basket brimming with personal, emotional and psychological resources, which they freely give away. Then, when it is time to pull some out for themselves–oops–the resources are gone.

The Importance of Being Helped

Fortunately, women today are becoming aware of the importance of being helped, as well as helping others. Today’s popular terms, mentor and coach, are just business models that dress up the age-old practice of women helping women. By watching good role models, women have learned how to be good mothers, good wives and good friends, but what about the myriad other areas that have only recently become part of a woman’s world?

  • Who does she ask about jobs, or career moves, or investing, or health care or issues surrounding growing older?
  • Where can the average woman honestly share her feelings?
  • Who will answer her hard questions?

She has to find a mentor, a role model to offer advice on career, education, parenting or any other life skill.

Does it Cost to Have a Mentor?

Having or being a mentor does not involve an exchange of money. Instead, a mentor provides advice, shows you the ropes and helps you to avoid mistakes if you will listen. A woman mentor can save you a world of headaches and sorrow and it is worth searching for someone with the experience you need. However, searching for a female role model in the worlds of business, medicine, religion, or sports often raises the question, “Have we women traveled as far down the fast track of life as we anticipated?”

Mentor or Life Coach?

Admittedly, volunteer mentors can be in short supply in some areas, and this may be what has given rise to the relatively new and trendy position of life coach. You can hire a coach to help you with business, executive challenges, sales, transitions, academics, management and any aspect of your personal life. If we stop and think, women did some of the earliest coaching in their historic roles as midwives. Then, as now, a coach would help you attain your goal and deliver your maximum performance!

How Do I Find a Mentor?

Look around in your community. Is there someone you admire for her skills or success? Invite her to coffee, or to go for a walk or just telephone and ask her advice. Everyone is pleased to feel admired. And remember–women are happy to help. Open up to the relationship, and you will identify ways you can help her in return or pass it on to others.

There’s no shame in this. We all need someone to help us now and then with life’s issues, concerns and today’s astounding maze of choices!

Man Says Women Have Won the War!

I just came across an article in the Huffington Post written by a male author who literally says “women have won the war against men and men are more like women”. I almost fell out of my chair when I read the article.

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